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Sexual Resources for Couples Healing From Sexual Addiction

 

VIDEOS:
  • Wendy Maltz, sex therapist/marriage counselor, has a program called Relearning Touch. It was designed for couples in recovery when one partner was sexually abused in childhood, but even if that isn't the case, healing after sexual addiction can be facilitated by this program. Classic sensate focus, from low risk to higher sensuality.

 

 

  • Gottsex, a video program by John and Julie Gottman, teaching "How to make real love, not just impersonal, shallow sex."

 

 

 

BOOKS:

 

  • Books by a married couple, PhD sex therapists who are also in recovery from sex addiction, Ginger and Bill Bercaw:

 

 

 

  • Also, there's the Open Hearts workbook by Patrick Carnes, PhD:

 

 

  • These resources are primarily focused on heterosexual couples, but another resource written by a gay male therapist, which applies to all couples, is "Ritual as Resource" by therapist Michael Picucci. Chapter 14, the Partnering Path, focuses on S.E.X. or "Soul Energy eXchange."

 


  • A daily meditation book by Alexandra Katehakis can be a wonderful tool for couples to read together and talk about their thoughts and feelings evoked by the reading:

 

Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence

More books to check out:

Come as you are – Emily Nagoski

Hot Monogamy – Patricia Love + Jo Robinson

Passionate Marriage – David Snarch
She Comes First: A Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman – Ian Kerner

Passionista: The Empowered Woman’ Guide to Pleasuring a Man – Ian Kerner

Individual Exploration / General Information

Arousal – Michael Bader

Male Sexuality – Michael Bader

Coping With Erectile Dysfunction – Michael Metz + Barry McCarthy

Sexual Reflections - a workbook for recovering sex addicts – Alexandra Katehakis

Mating in Captivity – Esther Perel

The Erotic Mind – Jack Morin

Sexual Anorexia – Patrick Carnes

Sexual Addiction-Related

Erotic Intelligence – Alexandra Katehakis

A Couple’s Guide to Sexual Addiction – Paldrom Collins + George Collins

The Couples’ Guide to Intimacy – Bill and Ginger Bercaw

Sexual Trauma

 Your Sexual Healing Journey – Wendy Maltz 

Betrayed as Boys – Richard Gartner

Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal – Dr. Sheri 
Keffer


12-Step Program for Couples: Recovering Couples Anonymous (RCA)

  • Recovering Couples Anonymous: Check out their "Couple Agreements" tab, where you'll find two examples of Sexuality Agreements that other couples have used successfully: http://www.recovering-couples.org/